11. More Boundaries with Minaa B.

Today I’m having an incredible conversation with a very special guest: Minaa B. 

Minaa B., is a writer, wellness coach, therapist and mental health educator. With over eight years of clinical experience and a passion for both mental health and social justice, through writing, speaking, workshops and coaching, Minaa teaches people how to cultivate self-care and self-advocacy through the lens of boundaries and community-care.

In this episode, we discuss how entrepreneurs can be more intentional about implementing better limits in their business, and overcome some of the unique challenges they face when it comes to setting boundaries. 

We discuss: 

• Finding healing through our own experiences

• How community, self care, and boundaries work together 

• Unique challenges entrepreneurs face when it comes to boundaries

• How a scarcity mindset leads to burn out

• Powerful actions you can take to implement boundaries right away

Here are some highlights …

Cultivating Community and Relationships.

“At the end of the day, we can’t pour from an empty cup. And so by having boundaries, it gives us an ability to replenish ourselves, and also have healthy limits in place only we can define what our limits are. That’s no one else’s responsibility to do that. So once we define our limits, we also have to pay attention to the things that drain us, of our peace that drains us, drains us from our energy. And so by doing that, we can now show up better for ourselves. And we can show up better for the people around us.” – Minaa B.

“And so I definitely believe that incorporating boundaries into how we build community, is how we are able to have a solid foundation of people in our lives.” -Minaa B.

Being a chronic yes-er.

“I find one area where entrepreneurs struggle, with boundaries is being a chronic yes-er, where they say anything that comes my way, I’m going to take it. And I’m going to do it because I need to keep my business afloat. And I think what ends up happening with that is we are saying yes to all of these things without really doing the work of understanding Well, one, is this within my niche, is this within my range? Is this something I actually have the the education, the skills and the time to do? And I think sometimes what we fear saying no, because we think that we are pushing away opportunities, and I think it’s important for entrepreneurs to know that every opportunity that comes your way is not going to be for you, even if it’s packaged and produced perfectly. And it seems like there’s a great reward at the end of it.” – Minaa B. 

Permission to say yes to yourself.

“You have permission to say yes to yourself. Because I think sometimes we get so hyper focused on the fact that we’re saying no to other people that we don’t realize that we’re doing that because we are saying yes to ourselves, we matter. Our health matters, our mental health matters, our well being matters, but only us, it’s up to us to choose. And so I really want people to know that you have permission to choose yourself, you have permission to say yes to yourself, and what you need to do to take care of yourself, because chronic niceness only leads to self betrayal and self harm. You know, and so if being nice to others, causes you to betray yourself in the process where you’re hurt, you’re broke, you’re tired, you’re depleted, that is an act of self harm.” – Minaa B.